The Narcissist in You and Everyone Else: Recognizing the 27 Types of Narcissism by Sterlin Mosley: is an interesting read for anyone interested in learning more about how narcissistic behaviors show up in different Enneagram personality types.
Pairs With: a sharing-size bag of M&Ms and someone to share them with.
Overview
The Narcissist In You and Everyone Else: Recognizing the 27 Types of Narcissism is an interesting read for anyone interested in learning more about how narcissistic behaviors show up in different Enneagram personality types. If you enjoy learning about the Enneagram and narcissists then this book is for you.
If you’re unfamiliar with the Enneagram and narcissistic traits but it sounds interesting then this book is also for you! Author, Sterlin Mosley, does a great job of explaining an overview of each Enneagram personality type and the narcissistic subtypes associated with each.
Mosley draws on movies and pop culture references to support his explanations of different personality types and behaviors. Mosley also provides tips and advice for dealing with each narcissist subtype. He gives advice on topics to avoid with certain narcissists and which type is the most dangerous.
I found this book fascinating because I love anything related to the Enneagram!
(If you don’t know your Enneagram number, I recommend you take an online quiz and figure it out because it will help explain a lot of why you function the way you do. Also, I recommend asking anyone you are close with to take a quiz and find their number as well. Once you know more about each person’s personality traits, some of the quirks that used to irritate you before may be easily explained by, “Oh they’re such a 7!” Disclaimer: As long as they’re harmless quirks and not toxic quirks!)
Broken into 2 Parts
This book is broken down into 2 parts.
Part one provides an overview of the enneagram and various personality disorders such as narcissism, sociopath, and psychopathy. Part two is on the 27 narcissist subtypes.
At first, trying to wrap your head around 27 different narcissistic subtypes is a bit daunting. However, I read this section by skipping around to the different Enneagram sections based on my own Enneagram number and the Enneagram numbers of people I know.
Conclusion
In order to combat the rise of narcissism, Mosley recommends empathy be taught in schools along with math and science.
As a former teacher, I can tell you this is something most teachers try to demonstrate for their students and instill in them. However how much more impactful would it be if it was called out, given a word, and focused on for a whole semester?! I think we should try it! We have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
No, caring more about others doesn’t take away any of your freedoms. Calm down Karen and send your kid to class.
Have you read this one or anything like it? Let me know in the comments below!
P.S. If you liked this one and want to learn more about the Enneagram check out The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile. Or if you want to learn more about Narcissism check out Disarming The Narcissist by Wendy T. Behary.
